I am working on putting together another site that documents all the information, DIY projects, ideas, and lessons learned from planning my own wedding. However, because I personally know three couples that are just recently engaged, I thought it best to post some information asap so that they may benefit.
These were the books that I bought, read, dog-eared (especially the second book), and recommend very highly for anyone planning a wedding. Erica and Jen, you’re more than welcome to borrow them any time.
Intimate Weddings by Christina Friedrichsen
This is a great what-type-of-wedding-do-I-want book that discusses the gazzillion different possibilities for a fantastic wedding that suits any budget. It is full of many great and inspiring real-life examples as well. I didn’t know what kind of wedding I wanted, initially… but this book inspired me to put together a wedding that best reflected Paul and me. I recommend reading this before you select either a venue or a date.
Bridal Bargains by Denise and Alan Fields
This book ought to be titled “The Essential Step-By-Step Wedding Planning Handbook.” It goes way beyond just finding good bargains. It offers very detailed coverage of all the ins and outs of the different parts of a wedding as well as potential scams and price gouging that you should watch out for. I found the suggested questions that you should ask the different vendors especially helpful.
Joining Hands and Heart by Susanna Stefanachi Macomb
This book helped me to put together an actual ceremony that incorporated all of our different multicultural heritages. If you are looking to incorporate traditions, quotations, etc. from other cultures into your ceremony, I would highly recommend this book.
Now, about those bridal magazines… that’s a whole other topic for another blog altogether.
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This is the plaster gauze dressform that I had blogged about. I didn’t have time to finish it with an official fabric covering and a stand. So I simply put one of my turtleneck shirts over it and I plopped it over a radiator and it worked out rather decently.
I am making a prototype of my wedding dress using muslin (very cheap cotton fabric). I had even gone to the extent of sewing boning to ensure a good fit.
I stayed fairly true to the original pattern, except that I had switched the gaudet (the extra gathered fabric on the side) from the left to the right side, and rather than three very large pleats, I am creating a rouged bodice.
The color differences between the different pieces of the dress are unintentional at this point. I purchased the cheapest muslin I could find which happened to be the yellow color. Then it turned out that it I needed a much wider fabric in order to make the skirt, and that was only available in white.
I’ve gotten a lot of questions from readers about how the dressform came out. It came out very nicely, but I did not have a chance to finish it much more beyond where I had left off in the last blog entry.
I had a family member who was very unexpectedly diagnosed with a terminal illness, so I had halted my wedding preparations to help my sister care for him. I only resumed the wedding preparations again at the end of April, which barely gave me a month of frenzied mad rush to the wedding day which was on May 24.
There simply had not been time for many updates here at Kimoat.com. And I am very sorry that I also did not have a chance to answer many of the questions I’d received via the contact form about specific details of the dressform.
Now that all is said and done, I will try to get those answers out to you. And I am going to post some of the things that I had done for the wedding, such as the knot that I had posted in the prior entry. The next planned entry will be about the construction of my wedding gown (where the half-finished dressform came very handy).
I had designed our wedding cake to match the rest of our wedding theme — simple, white with a touch of red, and incorporates a chinese knot.
Jacques Pastry did a wonderful job with the cake. It looked exactly as I had envisioned it, and most importantly, it was absolutely delicious! Photos of the cake above and to the left are courtesy of Eric Limon.
Below are the photos of the step by step progress of the knot that I’d made for Jacques Pastry.
I wasn’t too crazy about the paper-mache, so I redid the cast, but this time around I used plaster gauze rather than paper-mache. I like working with plaster much better, especially because it is a lot less work. And the final result is tougher and has much better detail.
This is the comparison between the plaster mold of my torso and the resulting cast made from that mold.
The final cast is a fairly accurate copy of my torso except for the slightly extended belly (from wiggling and from a belly full of air because I breathe using my tummy muscles) which is about an inch bigger. The rest is just the extra 20 lbs that I’d put on the past two/three years. (I think this manequin with the love handles hanging out in all its glory will definitely provide good incentive for me to start being more active again.)
As far as the process, I don’t whether or not there is a better way to do this as I could not find any precedence on the Web for making the final casting using plaster gauze. The only draw back to my method is that you have to sacrifice the mold.
- Prep the molds with vaseline as in the prior post where I made a paper-mache cast.
- Dip the plaster gauze strips into warm water and line the inside of both molds. (Cast each half separately.) I used about 3/4 layers and it came out fairly strong.
- Leave the molds for about 1 hour for the plaster to dry enough to hold its shape.
- Peel the outer molds away from the new casts. The plaster of the outer mold should now be softer because it will have have absorbed some of the moisture. (See photo below)
- Trim the edges and pair up the front and back pieces to form a whole 3D torso. Compare measurements of your body to the new torso to correct sizing. Trim more edges where necessary.
- Tie with string to ensure that the pieces will dry in the correct shape.
- Leave for about 2 days to dry. (This is where I am at right now.) More to come…
I did a test with the back half using Newspaper. It is usable, but I don’t love it.
If you’d like to do the same, this is an overview of the process:
- Cover the inside of the mold with vaseline.
- Tear up newspapers into 4″x4″ square swatches with no cut edges. Cut edges do not look smooth and seamless when overlapped.
- Dip the newspaper into wallpaper paste and cover the inside of the vaseline-covered mold, generously overlapping the prior pieces. I covered it with four layers of newspaper strips and it was still a tad bit flimsy. I recommend at least eight layers if you want a stronger dress form.
- Leave the paper-mache to dry completely inside the mold (about 2 days).
- Separate the paper mache from the plaster mold.
Paul and I are making a dressform so that I can use to sew my wedding dress.
An accurate dressform would help to ensure a perfect fit. It will also be essential for some of the freehand construction that I will be attempting because there is not a pattern available for the exact style that I want. I will work off a similar base pattern and then cut a new pattern by draping muslin fabric on the dummy.
Last night was our first attempt at casting a plaster mold.
The entire process was much harder than I thought it would be. And it took a lot longer than I expected — over three hours (not counting the setup and cleaning). We had all the precut strips and bucket of water on the floor, which was very cumbersome and hard on Paul’s back and knees. And according to Paul, the hardest part of the entire process was having to cut me out of the mold. Paul was absolutely exhausted after the entire ordeal.
It wasn’t as tiring for me, but it was definitely not easy either. Standing still took a lot of effort and energy. And the plaster was cold and heavy. It got increasingly colder as it continued to dry.
Mistakes we made that we should try to avoid next time (if I can convince Paul for a second try):
- I wiggled too much while the plaster was drying, thus expanding the mold quite a bit.
- The two layers of plaster gauze that we used were not thick enough to hold the shape while it continued to dry.
- We cut me out of the mold far too soon and it fell apart in some places. I had to replaster the pieces together so that it would dry in the correct shape.
Ideally (if this mold is usable), our next step would be to cast the real dressform inside the mold.
If you’d like more information on the process and the final results we will be attempting, take a look at the following websites:
This Saturday, Paul and I were at the wedding of a wonderful couple who are both good friends and colleagues of Paul’s. It was a beautiful, heart warming, romantic, and very fun wedding celebration. Definitely very inspiring for us bride and groom to be. And of course, we took lots of notes. ;-)
The setting of the ceremony, the style of the wedding party, the very environmentally friendly decor, and the entirety of the atmosphere all strongly reflected their personalities and their amazing creativity.
The photo above shows part of the invitation and is a glimpse into their unique style and theme. In lieu of the traditional guest book, they enclosed a piece of cloth for guests to create “prayer flags.”
“The flags do not carry prayers to “gods’… prayers and mantras will be blown by the wind to spread goodwill and compassion into all pervading space… Please place your well wishes on the cloth we’ve enclosed. Feel free to get as artistic as you want… don’t be afraid to bust out the glue, glitter… or anything else you have lying around… Part of what makes this what is is, is the fun you have while making it.”
Ours was indeed very fun to make.
There is not a more fitting blessing and prayer that we could think of for such a loving couple than the Chinese character for “Double Happiness.” It is a blessing always prominent in Chinese weddings. The symbol consists of two individual characters that each mean “happy.” This notion of the joining of two happy individuals to produce “double happiness” is symbolic of love, unity, and great lasting joy. If you look closely, there is even a visual resemblance of two people (wearing hats) holding hands.
I covered the entire cloth with fabric paint, and backed it with red velvet as red is symbolic for good luck in the Chinese culture.
Coming soon… as soon as I can get some photos that Paul took of me while I was painting, I will post step by step instructions. I’m working on retracing my steps and breaking it down so that anyone can reproduce such a painting.
I thought you might find it interesting to see the different design drafts of the Save the Date cards that Paul and I made for our upcoming wedding. I am cleaning out my workspace and am pitching out all the clutter.
The photos show the different stages of the thought/design process, from my initial quick doodle to a first prototype to little tweaks that made way for the final product.
I fell in love with the original prototype where I used a small piece of Japanese origami paper that I had lying around, and we shopped endlessly to try to find larger sheets of such paper. But at roughly $18 a sheet, they were definitely not cost effective. I’m happy with the red and gold speckled paper we went with for the final design.
I quite was surprised to find little to no (good) instructions online for making Chinese knots. I had to order a book to learn, and I played around with a variety of different knots.
When I find the time, I’d like to post detailed instructions on how to make the cards, including the chinese knot. Maybe some future bride elsewhere will find it useful.
